The hard truth is that no one else is responsible for our misery but us, no matter who may have triggered our feelings of discontent or notion of lack.
We are creators, innovators and the moment we forget this, and begin to think we are incapable of doing anything else but find someone or something to blame for our wrong choices and seek enablers and rescuers we create our very own mind traps. We build our own walls and suffocate our souls. We make victims of ourselves. That illusion can give us a false sense of comfort. Sooner or later we will have to face the truth we tried to bury and ignore like a ball we push underwater it will one day find no more depth to drown into and strike back and hit us right smack in the face.
Remember who you are and what you can do. You are your own problem but you are your own solution too.
The ball is in your hands, it will always be there, if it drops you can always pick it up. Can't hide it. Just stay centered. Don't be intimidated with the shakes and blows it's all part of existence. But we are natural born healers. Natural born heroes. We can fix ourselves. We really can.
Paulo Coelho once spoke these words "We do not drown by falling into a river, we drown when we remain submerged in it" ... couldn't have said it better.